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Should We Blame Everything on God?

I read an article in Neshamas recently where an anonymous writer claimed that “Hashem (God) doesn’t care”.

Here is an excerpt from that article :

“I just turned forty. Still not married. I haven’t even been on a date in five years. And the once every two years that someone has an idea for me, it never even materializes into a phone call. I am not a bad looking guy. I am not obese. I am healthy and I have no physical deformities. I have a good job.

What’s even more hurtful is to see guys I went to Lubavitch Yeshiva with that were criminals but somehow Hashem blessed them with a family. There was a group of bochurim my age in high school that used to rent luxury cars and report them stolen and drive them to a chop shop and sell them for quick money. They are all married with children. I never stole anything.

Hashem doesn’t care.

Then there was this gezhe guy who beat up his wife. They divorced. He got re-married and beat up his second wife. They divorced.Then he got re-married again. Hashem and the community kept rewarding this guy’s bad behavior with more opportunities. I never in my life beat anyone up.”

Blaming God for everything and thoughts like that make a lot of people unbelievers and Atheists. That being said, I don’t blame all my problems on God. I think that is a cop out.

I wouldn’t blame God for the crazy Jewish dating scene. People are people. Some are good. Some are bad. God is not a master of puppets. We all have free will to choose what we want to do. Part of God’s love for us lies in the fact that he gave us the freedom to think for ourselves.

I don’t blame God for the Holocaust either. I think there are forces of good and evil in this world.

God intervenes at times. But He also gives humans the ability to f*ck up excuse my french. God doesn’t mess things up,  humans do.They are driven by their humanistic flaws.  That being said, I don’t think God wants to control us or think for us, He wants us to make good decisions. And sometimes when we don’t, he doesn’t bail us out. He lets consequences happen.

God did intervene during the Holocaust I believe. Only 6 million Jews died. I know that’s a lot. But what if more had died? What if Hitler had taken over the world? It could have happened, but it didn’t.

I think we need to take personal responsibility for our destiny and actions. And we need to also hold others responsible for their actions. Not just say it an act of God. Yes, God sometimes works through people. But I think most of the time He lets us steer our own course.

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